Why more and more women choose self-employment


This week’s Blog is written by Vicki Marinker, whom I have known for several years since running a training programme at the recruitment firm where she was working.  

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Vicki is a partner in Comms Leaders, specialists in corporate communications recruitment.  She also writes a lifestyle blog at www.lifestylemaven.co.uk, where she shares her passion for, amongst other things, food, beauty, fashion and personal development.  

She stepped into the self employed world comparatively recently, so this article comes from the heart.  

She is in dispair and isolation

Self-employed people, they’re everywhere. Opening up boutiques, or industriously working on laptops in coffee shops, or beavering away in their home offices. Of course, they had always been there, but I’d been safely tucked away in my office, busily not noticing them.

Each new chapter in our lives opens our eyes to behaviours that were always there, but went unnoticed.

Little did I realise how many 40-something women are self-employed until I left corporate life myself. I estimate that half of the working mums in my sons’ classes at school are either self-employed, or have their own businesses and employ staff.

At the beginning of 2016, the self-employed accounted for 15% of the UK population, That’s 4.6million people.

There are many successful, happy, fulfilled women among them who aren’t interested in climbing the greasy corporate pole anymore.

I am singling out women here, because the majority of the self-employed people I happen to know are women. But it is a growing phenomenon.

Why is that? What is it that happens to women in their 30s and 40s that makes them leave the fertile land of employment and plough their own furrow?

It is true that the change often comes after women have children, but childcare isn’t the main motivation for women leaving their jobs. I didn’t leave my last company until my eldest son was eight. Many of my friends returned to work straight after their maternity leave, like me, determined to slot right back into corporate life, just as ambitious to succeed as before.

After a couple of years, that desire to reach the boardroom dwindled – it just didn’t seem like such an attractive option anymore. It wasn’t about work/life balance, it was more a case of wanting to be more authentic, make my own decisions and be in control of my own destiny.

Corporate culture vs authenticity

Men and women are wired differently. We have a different approach to communicating and making decisions. Studies show that women have a higher EQ – emotional intelligence, take fewer risks and place higher emphasis on communication skills than men. These characteristics are under-valued in large organisations, even by those run by women. Michael talks about this in a guest blog on my website here.

Appraisals and personal development plans are ultimately about achieving the next level in the hierarchy. And in order to reach that goal, one has to demonstrate, among other things, better ‘leadership’ skills.

That just doesn’t feel authentic to many women. I once won an award for being ‘most inspiring mentor’ – that’s where I felt I had strength, in encouraging people – not in managing large teams or dictating strategy. But that wasn’t really part of the company’s grand plan.

I began to find the structure within which I worked stifling. Rather than beating a path to the boardroom door, I started to retreat from it, asking for less responsibility and fewer people to manage.

Women do have a choice – they can either learn more ‘masculine’ skills to compete for the top jobs; be content where they are, using the skills they have; or they can make a leap of faith into a new way of working, that allows them to be authentic and make their own choices.

The pay and opportunity gap

Two executives – one male, one female – started their jobs with the same company at around the same time. They were given the same opportunities and responsibilities for several years and both thrived. Until the woman announced she was pregnant. At that point the woman was taken off the leadership development programme because, she was told she was ‘going on sabbatical and effectively leaving the business for a while’. That happened. The CEO who made that decision was a woman.

Some bosses beat the ambition out of us.

Family commitments change our priorities

According to The Guardian, women are, in the main, responsible for the majority of the childcare and household chores despite our best efforts to achieve parity.

After a long day at the office, sometimes followed by an evening of networking, I’d come home to make dinner, put on the washing, spend some time with the kids. The hubster does his fair share too, don’t get me wrong, but I can guarantee he has never woken up in the middle of the night in a panic to put the drying machine on.

I know several women who work for international companies who expect them to dial into conference calls with their counterparts in Melbourne and New York at 11pm, and turn up to work bright and breezy at 8am the next day. That timetable isn’t sustainable when one child is teething and the other is waking with night terrors.

Never did my family commitments interfere with my corporate job. I worked four days a week and was the top biller in the company. But there was this constant nagging feeling that I wasn’t giving 100% to either work or family. The move towards equality (because we’re not there yet) means that we have a lot on our plates and not enough time.

Now I’m very disciplined with my time – there is clear separation. I don’t do household chores during working hours, but because I don’t commute anymore, I can do those things while the kids are eating their breakfast or dinner. I have several hours available to me that weren’t before.

The internet entrepreneur

The internet has brought so many new opportunities for all sorts of one-woman businesses. A whole category of enterprises only exist because of the internet – such as web designers, bloggers, virtual assistants; while others are able to expand their businesses through web-based marketing and sales. Start-ups don’t need a huge investment to get going. In the case of our recruitment business, we already owned laptops, had a well-established network to tap into and just needed to buy a software package and mobile phones.

There are so many reasons, and opportunities, for leaving corporate life, it’s no surprise there are so many self-employed women in the UK.

My fifth decade(eek!) has brought with it a confidence to make scary decisions. I wish I had made the move away from employment in my 30s but I wasn’t mentally ready for it then. The self-employed women I know are confident. They are leaders. They just don’t want to lead in the confines of a corporate hierarchy.

Self-employment allows women to be authentic, take back some time and freedom and create a life that includes work, rather than trying to fit a life around work.

 

 

About Michael Brown Training

I'm a business skills trainer, facilitator and coach. I've been helping people to learn for 16 years, working all around the world on topics such as Negotiation, Conflict Handling, Sales, Leadership, Consulting and Personal Effectiveness. I'm an ENFP, constantly looking for new and inspiring things to do. I love my job for its variety and the stimulation I get from it, and spend most of my time seeing how far we can go with the subjects we work on in the training room. I've recently started a new venture in making video on how NOT to do things, which you can find at www.hownot2.com
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4 Responses to Why more and more women choose self-employment

  1. Pingback: Why mid-life women are leaving their jobs in record numbers

  2. Fantastic post which I can relate to immensely. My husband and myself both run our own businesses and have found that our family life has been much easier to sustain. Our kids have not become latch key kids where they let themselves in but we still do lots of traveling for work so have built a great support network between other parents, my own parents and the after school clubs.

    I myself, was semi forced through redundancy, went from employment to self employment just before our first kid was due so was a very scary time and lots of talk about whether this was the right thing.

    I came into the corporate world being told by my parents this is what I want and I need to work hard to get high up. So that’s what I did straight after uni. However as I started working over the years, I realised that rising the corporate ladder was actually not what I wanted but I liked a job that would give me flexibility and my independence on how I wanted to work.

    I still do the same hours and probably argue more. I just do my work at different times. I’m often working between 8-10 at night or getting up at 5 to get a few hours in (never both) but I don’t have the commute and as long as I have internet, laptop and phone, I can work.

    I’m also guilty of working when my kids around which I realised wasn’t sustainable so I make a point to work in our home office or not work when I’m with the kids and shut emails down.

    Wouldn’t change my balance for the world.

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  3. Carolann says:

    Great post! It really is a brave new world.

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